Tantra
Sustainable intimacy
Over time the polarity between two lovers diminishes. This is natural. The question we hear all the time is what should we do to manage this process? This is very often a taboo topic in our culture. We think we are very open to discussing sexuality but this is a myth. Otherwise this would be one of the very first topics that would be discussed with friends. We know that some couples do not even discuss their sex life. Ever. Why is that?
Well that is one of the key issues right there. A lack of intimacy. The word intimacy is derived from Latin, which means ‘innermost’ or ‘most intimate’.
Intimacy is not just the act of lovemaking. It is to be holistically intimate with your partner across all levels. This creates connection. When there is connection intimacy flows naturally and sexual intimacy is a natural expression of connection.
Many couples feel that they lack the spark of sexual polarity but frequently (although not always) the issue is really intimacy. When there is an open discussion of issues around intimacy, there is a greater awareness and an increased inner freedom, which enhances sexual pleasure and sexual fulfillment.
However, the first requirement is to be open and vulnerable. Again these qualities naturally lead to intimacy. Such qualities reside in the domain of the heart and in our culture the beautiful simplicity of the heart is often overlooked by the rational approach of the mind.
This issue of creating sustainable intimacy is just one of the many topics that we explore in our art of love workshops. It is a topic of great significance for our relationships and intimacy, which requires a deeper level of consideration and contemplation.